Hard boiled egg

Vancouver is one of the most culturally diverse cities in the world; its inevitable that one will see many interracial couples strolling on the street. I am too, in an interracial relationship; I am Chinese and my boyfriend is Caucasian.

Normally, people won’t say too much about interracial couples if they happen to see one on the street. In most cases, people will not know them personally enough to really notice or make it their business. That is even if people make a conscious decision to notice different cultures falling in love. In Vancouver alone, you see many everywhere you go. (Its not like the 1800’s or something, where interracial couples are stoned to death.)
During the three years we’ve been together (almost four now), I’m surprised as to how some people around us have perceived us and have made some offensive comments about interracial couples.
My ignorant friends who have never been involved in an interracial relationship made most of these stupid comments. (It’s either that or their lack of understanding of other culture.)

Some of the questions they’ve asked are like,
“How is it dating a white guy?”
“What do you guys do?”
“What do you guys talk about?”
“Does he have a big penis?” (Like what the hell?)
“Are you sexually attracted to him? Is that why you like him?”
Etc, etc…

( *names have been changed)

Anyway, last Monday, I’ve met a guy called * Mike, he is a friend of *Eric (my god brother). Like every Monday lunch break, my god brother Eric and I usually have lunch together, so last Monday, Mike joined us for lunch. At first Mike seemed to be a pretty decent guy, he seemed like a pretty nice person, positive and talkative- UNTIL I mentioned that my boyfriend was white, then he started bad mouthing about interracial couples, which made me pretty angry! Mike went on and on about how he is so sick and tired of seeing interracial couples on the street, he especially hates the “white boys, Asian girls” combo. After he rampaged about how interracial couples annoy him, he still has the guts to asked me, “So why do you date a white guy? What is it about white guys that attract you? Is it because they’re more exotic?”

I was thinking to myself, “ WTF? More exotic? What the hell is this guy trying to say?”

The funny thing is most of Mike’s friends are non-Asians but mostly white. Also, Mike himself admitted that he has a thing for white girls (now that’s fetish! He likes a girl because of her race not the person). I wonder if he finds his comments contradictive to his believes.


First of all, I am not going out with an alien okay? White people are just like any other human beings. We might look different, we might eat different food, we might speak different languages…but its not like he is a completely different species.

I like him because of who he is, not because of his skin color, or his penis or that he has blue eyes or because he is a Canadian citizen (I am too a Canadian Citizen, not like I to get with a white boy to get a Canadian citizenship). It’s just like going out with an Asian guy, but he doesn’t speak my language, that’s all! There is nothing strange, mysterious, or “exotic” about dating someone of a different race as Mike puts it.